Posts Tagged ‘sexuality’

Sex therapist at the Academy Awards, part 2 — The Courage to be Seen

    On the occasion of The Sessions being up for an Academy Award this year (Helen Hunt, for best supporting actress), we’re discussing some of the film’s implications  for sex therapy.  This is part 2. Something quite ordinary The Sessions tells the story one man’s extraordinary misfortune — paralyzed by polio at age 6 [...]

Remembering one of love’s greatest students

  A month ago, an article appeared in The New York Times noting the passing, at his home in Switzerland, of Daniel Stern, MD (below) — psychiatrist, psychoanalyst and researcher. Stern’s death failed to make the Times’ front page, but the Science Times featured a memorial piece by Douglas Martin that pretty well captured Stern’s work and [...]

On eros, spirituality, and crying during sex

    Most recent in a series of articles  and interviews based on the new book Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone.   This is article 4 in the series.   My fellow sex journalist Tracy Clark-Flory was a guest at one of  Nicole Daedone’s weekend retreats  for women at Le Meridien in San Francisco last year.   [...]

Mass Erotic Choice as a Social Organizer — from Beatlemania to Fifty Shades of Grey

  Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons.   Fifth in a series based on the new book, Fifty Shades of Grey. The questions never change Working as a sex therapist, I have more than a passing interest in what the culture happens to be serving up about eros. Part of it is simply curiosity about what [...]

Sex therapy NYC — What you still might not know after reading Fifty Shades of Grey

    Reader beware After reading Fifty Shades of Grey, you might think you’ve learned something about  men who wish to sexually dominate their partners. In particular, you might conclude that being a sexual Dominant probably means one had a very bad childhood, as Christian Grey did.  And that like Grey one has problems loving, being [...]

Sex Therapy NYC: Fifty Shades of Grey

      One quiet night It is 22 year old Anastasia Steele’s first night alone with Seattle billionaire sex-god Christian Grey,  in his high-tech mansion in the sky. Page 85.  She is about to experience sexual climax, for the first time in her life.  Let’s hear her tell it – “Let go, baby,” he murmurs. [...]

Lessons from the world’s largest sex experiment

    Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons.   Mapping the sexual mind This year saw the publication of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, a book that among other things discusses its author’s independent analysis of 55 million sex-related Google searches. Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, the two computational neuroscientists who wrote A Billion Wicked Thoughts, appear to [...]


    Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons. Eleventh in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam Eros, self-love, and the New York Times In 2009 an article by Daniel Bergner appeared in the New York Times Magazine concerning new research into women’s [...]

The woman in the mirror

    Tenth in a series of articles on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam   “Being desired is very arousing to women.” Marta Meana, quoted in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, p. 110.   Every little thing she does is magic In a typical romance novel aimed at [...]

Some aspects of women’s (hetero)sexual desire

    Ninth in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. Sex and sensibility Romance literature, according to the authors of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, is the most popular form of fiction in the world.  It’s estimated that the total yearly revenues [...]