A question of authority One afternoon 25 years ago, I found myself on a witness stand [...]
Posts Tagged ‘sexuality’
Mass Erotic Choice as a Social Organizer — from Beatlemania to Fifty Shades of Grey
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7, via Creative Commons. Fifth in a series based on the new book, Fifty Shades of Grey. The questions never change Working as a sex therapist, I have more than a passing interest in what the culture happens to be serving up about eros. Part of it is simply curiosity about what [...]
Sex therapy NYC — What you still might not know after reading Fifty Shades of Grey
Reader beware After reading Fifty Shades of Grey, you might think you’ve learned something about men who wish to sexually dominate their partners. In particular, you might conclude that being a sexual Dominant probably means one had a very bad childhood, as Christian Grey did. And that like Grey one has problems loving, being [...]
Sex Therapy NYC: Fifty Shades of Grey
One quiet night It is 22 year old Anastasia Steele’s first night alone with Seattle billionaire sex-god Christian Grey, in his high-tech mansion in the sky. Page 85. She is about to experience sexual climax, for the first time in her life. Let’s hear her tell it – “Let go, baby,” he murmurs. [...]
Lessons from the world’s largest sex experiment
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7, via Creative Commons. Mapping the sexual mind This year saw the publication of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, a book that among other things discusses its author’s independent analysis of 55 million sex-related Google searches. Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, the two computational neuroscientists who wrote A Billion Wicked Thoughts, appear to [...]
Juego
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7, via Creative Commons. Eleventh in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam Eros, self-love, and the New York Times In 2009 an article by Daniel Bergner appeared in the New York Times Magazine concerning new research into women’s [...]
The woman in the mirror
Tenth in a series of articles on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam “Being desired is very arousing to women.” Marta Meana, quoted in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, p. 110. Every little thing she does is magic In a typical romance novel aimed at [...]
Some aspects of women’s (hetero)sexual desire
Ninth in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. Sex and sensibility Romance literature, according to the authors of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, is the most popular form of fiction in the world. It’s estimated that the total yearly revenues [...]
Same bed, different dreams
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7, via Creative Commons. Eighth in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. “Same bed, different dreams” – traditional Chinese proverb The big sex discoveries 50 years ago by Masters and Johnson concerned how the physiologies of male and female [...]
The Cosmo Interview: Contemporary sexuality and A Billion Wicked Thoughts
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7, via Creative Commons. I was recently interviewed by Karen Robertson for Cosmopolitan South Africa on the subject of the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts, which has been extensively reviewed on these pages. Ms. Robertson’s article “Is Kinky the New Normal?” appeared in Cosmopolitan South Africa in July 2011. Thanks [...]
Still further along the road less traveled
“When my beloved first stands before me naked, all open to my sight, there is a feeling throughout the whole of me; awe. Why? If sex is no more than an instinct, why don’t I simply feel horny or hungry? Such simple hunger would be quite sufficient to insure the propagation of the species. Why [...]
