Jan 15, 2012 Tim, first of all let me say I’m really sorry about your team’s [...]
Posts Tagged ‘romance’
SexualityResource at the movies: Twilight Breaking Dawn
A secret code As most careful readers of the Twilight series know, there is a literary work that gets mentioned in each of the later volumes that explains the story. For New Moon, we have Romeo and Juliet. That’s easy. For Breaking Dawn, there’s The Merchant of Venice. A courtroom drama, where a woman [...]
The woman in the mirror
Tenth in a series of articles on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam “Being desired is very arousing to women.” Marta Meana, quoted in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, p. 110. Every little thing she does is magic In a typical romance novel aimed at [...]
Some aspects of women’s (hetero)sexual desire
Ninth in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. Sex and sensibility Romance literature, according to the authors of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, is the most popular form of fiction in the world. It’s estimated that the total yearly revenues [...]
Sexual arousal for its own sake
Simmering: A two minute technique for nourishing the erotic bond between partners. Useful for modern couples for whom the idea of leisure time is a quaint memory, but who’d like to stay in touch. A modern dilemma Recently I had lunch with my colleague Eric Amaranth, and the conversation turned to the subject of polyamory — [...]
Sexuality, simmering, and the B train back from the beach
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7 A train in motion On the B train, one hot summer Sunday afternoon. I’m bringing my children and a few of their friends back to Manhattan, after a long day at the beach in Brooklyn. There’s a young couple standing near the exit door, sharing an ipod headset. Each with an earpiece [...]
Sex Therapy and Twilight: Eclipse
Growing up, we each come to learn that we’re not the center of the world — that the people who love us also have other concerns. But eros is primitive, and the erotic mind is a poor student. It remains fixated on an image of pure, absolute attention from an adoring other. And the power [...]
Twilight, and the art of foreplay
Foreplay. Women traditionally complain they don’t get enough of it. Often this gets interpreted as being due to a woman’s needing more physical stimulation to get fully aroused. OK, maybe sometimes that’s the issue. But I don’t see it as the essential thing. The physical aspects of sex rarely are. The essential thing [...]
Dining and Differentiation
What’s the secret to making your love a lasting one? What’s the secret to keeping sexual passion alive? There’s no one best answer, and every couple is different. But many sex therapists, myself included, talk about something called “differentiation” as a key factor. Differentation means being able to take care of yourself, as a separate [...]
