Jan 15, 2012 Tim, first of all let me say I’m really sorry about your team’s [...]
Posts Tagged ‘passion’
Juego
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7, via Creative Commons. Eleventh in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam Eros, self-love, and the New York Times In 2009 an article by Daniel Bergner appeared in the New York Times Magazine concerning new research into women’s [...]
The woman in the mirror
Tenth in a series of articles on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam “Being desired is very arousing to women.” Marta Meana, quoted in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, p. 110. Every little thing she does is magic In a typical romance novel aimed at [...]
Wolf love in The New York Times
Vampires in love I remember years ago going to see Frank Langella in Dracula on Broadway. The only thing I can recall about the play now is the scene just before the curtain that ended Act I: As I remember, there were just two people still on stage – the Count and his female [...]
Edith Wharton and the Nine Rooms of Happiness
Sex and Eros The average adult heterosexual man, in the average relationship with an adult woman, doesn’t ask for so much - and doesn’t have so much to give. He’d like a good meal, a little appreciation for how well he replaced the lightbulb in the bathroom yesterday. Then he wants to be left alone [...]
Sexual arousal for its own sake
Simmering: A two minute technique for nourishing the erotic bond between partners. Useful for modern couples for whom the idea of leisure time is a quaint memory, but who’d like to stay in touch. A modern dilemma Recently I had lunch with my colleague Eric Amaranth, and the conversation turned to the subject of polyamory — [...]
Sexuality, simmering, and the B train back from the beach
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7 A train in motion On the B train, one hot summer Sunday afternoon. I’m bringing my children and a few of their friends back to Manhattan, after a long day at the beach in Brooklyn. There’s a young couple standing near the exit door, sharing an ipod headset. Each with an earpiece [...]
The end of “Pink Viagra”:What have we learned?
(reprinted from Dr Snyder’s www.PsychologyToday.com/blog/SexualityToday) Another one bites the dust. As many of you know, this month the pharmaceutical firm Boehringer Ingelheim pulled the plug on flibanserin, the reputed (and as many have remarked, misnamed) “Pink Viagra,” which had been developed as a treatment for something called Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) in women. Many in [...]
Sex Therapy and Twilight: Eclipse
Growing up, we each come to learn that we’re not the center of the world — that the people who love us also have other concerns. But eros is primitive, and the erotic mind is a poor student. It remains fixated on an image of pure, absolute attention from an adoring other. And the power [...]
Dining and Differentiation
What’s the secret to making your love a lasting one? What’s the secret to keeping sexual passion alive? There’s no one best answer, and every couple is different. But many sex therapists, myself included, talk about something called “differentiation” as a key factor. Differentation means being able to take care of yourself, as a separate [...]
