Posts Tagged ‘online’

Manhattan Sex Therapist Discusses “LinkedUp!” — The New Dating App for Business

    As a sex therapist I spend a lot of time counseling single people about how to find good partners.  That’s gotten a lot easier since online dating has radically increased the number of people to choose from.  But online dating has its disadvantages. It’s great if you’re just looking for a hookup or [...]

Mass Erotic Choice as a Social Organizer — from Beatlemania to Fifty Shades of Grey

  Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons.   Fifth in a series based on the new book, Fifty Shades of Grey. The questions never change Working as a sex therapist, I have more than a passing interest in what the culture happens to be serving up about eros. Part of it is simply curiosity about what [...]

Lessons from the world’s largest sex experiment

    Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons.   Mapping the sexual mind This year saw the publication of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, a book that among other things discusses its author’s independent analysis of 55 million sex-related Google searches. Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, the two computational neuroscientists who wrote A Billion Wicked Thoughts, appear to [...]

The simple, the complex, and the still-forbidden

  Detail from “Central Park in Spring” by Brocha Teichman — reproduced by permission of the artist. Seventh in a series of articles loosely based on A Billion Wicked Thoughts, by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam.   Things you still can’t say in print about sex. Last May saw the publication of a new and [...]

The Cosmo Interview: Contemporary sexuality and A Billion Wicked Thoughts

    Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons. I was recently interviewed by Karen Robertson for Cosmopolitan South Africa on the subject of the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts, which has been extensively reviewed on these pages.    Ms. Robertson’s article “Is Kinky the New Normal?” appeared in Cosmopolitan South Africa in July 2011. Thanks [...]

The search for sexual sanity continues

  Now that Representative Anthony Weiner is reported to be seeking professional help, one question seems to be on many people’s minds: Help for what? That’s not clear.  Sending suggestive photos of oneself to young women is clearly personally and professionally hazardous.  But does it reflect a disorder requiring treatment? Common sense would say that [...]

Eros and technology: Jonathan Franzen in The New York Times

  Blackberry love “A couple of weeks ago, I replaced my three-year-old BlackBerry Pearl with a much more powerful BlackBerry Bold. Needless to say, I was impressed with how far the technology had advanced in three years. Even when I didn’t have anybody to call or text or e-mail, I wanted to keep fondling my [...]

The elements of desire

    (Fourth in a series of articles discussing A Billion Wicked Thoughts, a controversial new book by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam that uses the internet to study human sexuality in some new and unusual ways. Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7)   There’s an app for that Much like your average personal computer, the human brain [...]

The strange new science behind “A Billion Wicked Thoughts”

    A shocking discovery It’s not so unusual these days for a woman to discover pornographic pictures on her husband’s computer.  But the images that one wife found recently were especially shocking.  Her first thought when she found them was, “This is the end of our marriage.” Her next thought was, “This is the end [...]

Diary of a Manhattan Sex Therapist — The other side of Saturday night

Want to test your knowledge of male sexual psychology?   Take this quiz: QUIZ:  It’s Saturday night.  Paul, 25 years old, is on a date with a new woman whom he likes very much and finds very sexy.  Unfortunately, later that night when they undress together, he suddenly has no erection.  She is very understanding [...]