Posts Tagged ‘men’

On male bisexuality — the Elle interview

    “I will dance with anybody. I’ve chased men and women. I like men and women both.”  –Boxer Emile Griffith, quoted in Sports Illustrated, 2005.   I’m not usually one to linger on obituaries, but this one held my attention all the way to the end:  The New York Times’ July 24, 2013 obituary of [...]

Can a man make love like a woman?

    Several years ago, a merchant in my neighborhood learned that I was both an MD and a sex therapist.  The next time I was in his shop, he asked me if I could get him some Viagra. “How long have you had erection problems?” I asked. “I don’t,” he answered.  “But my wife and I [...]

Sexual healing that won’t break your nose

    All things considered, the mental health profession comes off pretty well in this year’s new sex movie Hope Springs.  Marriage therapist and author Dr Bernard Feld, played by Steve Carell, is a fairly nice specimen by Hollywood standards. He’s likeable, intelligent, confident-but-not-a-shmuck, and commits no flagrant boundary violations.  You get the idea.   He’s [...]

Sexless in Nebraska: Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones in “Hope Springs”

    A strange thing, mystifying In this new movie, Tommy Lee Jones plays an Omaha accountant named Arnold who won’t have sex with his wife — Kay, a sixty-something Everywoman played by a very likeable Meryl Streep. No sex, no physical attention, minimal eye contact, separate bedrooms.  The marital estrangement combination platter – with [...]

Fifty Shades for men

    OK, guys — By now you’ve probably noticed your wife or girlfriend has become more interested in sex since reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Have you thought of reading it yourself — to find out what all the fuss is about? I’m going to tell you a secret:  I read the whole thing.   [...]

Same bed, different dreams

  Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons. Eighth in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. “Same bed, different dreams” – traditional Chinese proverb The big sex discoveries 50 years ago by Masters and Johnson concerned how the physiologies of male and female [...]

The SexualityResource interview: What to do when size obsession gets out of hand

  Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7 Tori Rodriguez, a writer for, recently interviewed me for a short article, The Obsession with Size, prompted by a recent article in the British Journal of Urology reporting that most men electing penis enlargement surgery are in fact normally endowed.   Thanks to Ms Rodriguez and to the editors of [...]

The search for sexual sanity continues

  Now that Representative Anthony Weiner is reported to be seeking professional help, one question seems to be on many people’s minds: Help for what? That’s not clear.  Sending suggestive photos of oneself to young women is clearly personally and professionally hazardous.  But does it reflect a disorder requiring treatment? Common sense would say that [...]

What turns men on, really?

    (Fifth in a series of articles discussing A Billion Wicked Thoughts, a controversial new book by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam that uses the internet to study human sexuality in some new and unusual ways. Photocredit:  Pedrosimoes7 )   As simple as it gets “Wolfgang likes to look at images of female derrieres.  [...]

Another look at sex and Propecia

Just because you stop the medication, doesn’t mean the problem will resolve. It’s been known for a long time that finasteride, commonly taken by men as Propecia to prevent hair loss, can occasionally cause loss of erections and loss of sexual desire. Last time in “Manhattan Sex Therapist’s Diary” we discussed how two recent medical [...]