Jan 15, 2012 Tim, first of all let me say I’m really sorry about your team’s [...]
Posts Tagged ‘eros’
An open letter to Denver Broncos quarterback Tim Tebow — about virginity and other important matters
Jan 15, 2012 Tim, first of all let me say I’m really sorry about your team’s loss to the Patriots. What can I say? They were the better team. I’m sure you’d agree. But now that the season’s over, let’s talk about more important things. Let’s talk about sex. I understand that like [...]
Juego
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7, via Creative Commons. Eleventh in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam Eros, self-love, and the New York Times In 2009 an article by Daniel Bergner appeared in the New York Times Magazine concerning new research into women’s [...]
The woman in the mirror
Tenth in a series of articles on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam “Being desired is very arousing to women.” Marta Meana, quoted in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, p. 110. Every little thing she does is magic In a typical romance novel aimed at [...]
Some aspects of women’s (hetero)sexual desire
Ninth in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. Sex and sensibility Romance literature, according to the authors of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, is the most popular form of fiction in the world. It’s estimated that the total yearly revenues [...]
Still further along the road less traveled
“When my beloved first stands before me naked, all open to my sight, there is a feeling throughout the whole of me; awe. Why? If sex is no more than an instinct, why don’t I simply feel horny or hungry? Such simple hunger would be quite sufficient to insure the propagation of the species. Why [...]
Hello goodbye
Shakespeare, in his Sonnets, famously imagined three strategies for escaping death: creating art, having children, and loving deeply. It’s a tribute to sex that it can sometimes be involved in at least two out of those three. I considered this today as I took my son to board the bus for sleepaway camp. [...]
Eros, thanatos, and Sunday afternoon
(Part 3 of a series prompted by Vanessa Woods’ Bonobo Handshake.) Across the river and into the trees One day last summer my son came home from a birthday party covered with bruises, bleeding, and looking very proud of himself. Happily examining his wounds in the bathtub, he explained that he’d been playing paintball, which [...]
Edith Wharton and the Nine Rooms of Happiness
Sex and Eros The average adult heterosexual man, in the average relationship with an adult woman, doesn’t ask for so much - and doesn’t have so much to give. He’d like a good meal, a little appreciation for how well he replaced the lightbulb in the bathroom yesterday. Then he wants to be left alone [...]
The Nine Rooms of Happiness: What does a woman want?
What does a woman want? Freud, famously, claimed not to know. In a letter to his student Marie Bonaparte, he wrote, ‘The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is ”What does a woman want?”‘ I think [...]
Sexual arousal for its own sake
Simmering: A two minute technique for nourishing the erotic bond between partners. Useful for modern couples for whom the idea of leisure time is a quaint memory, but who’d like to stay in touch. A modern dilemma Recently I had lunch with my colleague Eric Amaranth, and the conversation turned to the subject of polyamory — [...]
