Posts Tagged ‘differentiation’

Before the last word is said about FiftyShades

    Here’s a question: Does anyone have any idea why Fifty Shades of Grey has sold so many millions of books? I’m asking because in all that I’ve read about this book, I haven’t seen one mention of what it’s really about.  And why it’s been such a runaway success. Is it because of [...]

Still further along the road less traveled

    “When my beloved first stands before me naked, all open to my sight, there is a feeling throughout the whole of me; awe.  Why?  If sex is no more than an instinct, why don’t I simply feel horny or hungry?  Such simple hunger would be quite sufficient to insure the propagation of the species.  Why [...]

Eros and technology: Jonathan Franzen in The New York Times

  Blackberry love “A couple of weeks ago, I replaced my three-year-old BlackBerry Pearl with a much more powerful BlackBerry Bold. Needless to say, I was impressed with how far the technology had advanced in three years. Even when I didn’t have anybody to call or text or e-mail, I wanted to keep fondling my [...]

Edith Wharton and the Nine Rooms of Happiness

Sex and Eros The average adult heterosexual man, in the average relationship with an adult woman, doesn’t ask for so much -   and doesn’t have so much to give.   He’d like a good meal, a little appreciation for how well he replaced the lightbulb in the bathroom yesterday.  Then he wants to be left alone [...]

Dining and Differentiation

  Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons.   What’s the secret to making your love a lasting one?  What’s the secret to keeping sexual passion alive?  There’s no one best answer, and every couple is different.  But many sex therapists, myself included, talk about something called “differentiation” as a key factor.  Differentation means being able to [...]