Jan 15, 2012 Tim, first of all let me say I’m really sorry about your team’s [...]
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An open letter to Denver Broncos quarterback Tim Tebow — about virginity and other important matters
Jan 15, 2012 Tim, first of all let me say I’m really sorry about your team’s loss to the Patriots. What can I say? They were the better team. I’m sure you’d agree. But now that the season’s over, let’s talk about more important things. Let’s talk about sex. I understand that like [...]
Same bed, different dreams
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7, via Creative Commons. Eighth in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. “Same bed, different dreams” – traditional Chinese proverb The big sex discoveries 50 years ago by Masters and Johnson concerned how the physiologies of male and female [...]
Still further along the road less traveled
“When my beloved first stands before me naked, all open to my sight, there is a feeling throughout the whole of me; awe. Why? If sex is no more than an instinct, why don’t I simply feel horny or hungry? Such simple hunger would be quite sufficient to insure the propagation of the species. Why [...]
What’s so new about the new non-monogamy?
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7 via Creative Commons “Monogamy Lite” For those of you who missed “Open Marriage,” the ethical non-monogamy movement of the 70’s: Ethical non-monogamy is back. Not that it ever actually disappeared. But it seems to be making news again. Last year the New York Times bestselling book Sex at Dawn (extensively reviewed [...]
Edith Wharton and the Nine Rooms of Happiness
Sex and Eros The average adult heterosexual man, in the average relationship with an adult woman, doesn’t ask for so much - and doesn’t have so much to give. He’d like a good meal, a little appreciation for how well he replaced the lightbulb in the bathroom yesterday. Then he wants to be left alone [...]
Sexual arousal for its own sake
Simmering: A two minute technique for nourishing the erotic bond between partners. Useful for modern couples for whom the idea of leisure time is a quaint memory, but who’d like to stay in touch. A modern dilemma Recently I had lunch with my colleague Eric Amaranth, and the conversation turned to the subject of polyamory — [...]
Sexuality, simmering, and the B train back from the beach
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7 A train in motion On the B train, one hot summer Sunday afternoon. I’m bringing my children and a few of their friends back to Manhattan, after a long day at the beach in Brooklyn. There’s a young couple standing near the exit door, sharing an ipod headset. Each with an earpiece [...]
ADHD, Marriage, and The N. Y. Times – Part 2 Alvin? Alvin??! ALVIIIN!!!!
The word “Deficit” in “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder” is seriously misleading. As any parent of a kid with ADHD will tell you, such children often have an astounding capacity for paying attention to something that happens to be immediately exciting, such as a video game. The problem is that they have trouble paying attention to [...]
ADHD, Marriage, and the New York Times
At long last, ADHD and its marital consequences have reached The New York Times. Tara Parker-Pope’s July 20 column concerns the long-overdue recognition of the pivotal role that an individual’s having ADHD can have on a romantic partnership. The high incidence of marital distress and even divorce in such relationships. What’s remarkable is that the [...]
Some open secrets about sexual arousal
The secrets of sexual arousal are hidden in plain sight. You just have to know what you’re looking for. Physical sexual arousal – the sexually aroused body – has been endlessly studied, most famously by Masters and Johnson in the 1960′s. And less rigorously but no less intensely by every sexual couple since the dawn of [...]
