Jan 15, 2012 Tim, first of all let me say I’m really sorry about your team’s [...]
Posts Tagged ‘attention’
Juego
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7, via Creative Commons. Eleventh in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam Eros, self-love, and the New York Times In 2009 an article by Daniel Bergner appeared in the New York Times Magazine concerning new research into women’s [...]
The woman in the mirror
Tenth in a series of articles on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam “Being desired is very arousing to women.” Marta Meana, quoted in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, p. 110. Every little thing she does is magic In a typical romance novel aimed at [...]
Edith Wharton and the Nine Rooms of Happiness
Sex and Eros The average adult heterosexual man, in the average relationship with an adult woman, doesn’t ask for so much - and doesn’t have so much to give. He’d like a good meal, a little appreciation for how well he replaced the lightbulb in the bathroom yesterday. Then he wants to be left alone [...]
The Nine Rooms of Happiness: What does a woman want?
What does a woman want? Freud, famously, claimed not to know. In a letter to his student Marie Bonaparte, he wrote, ‘The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is ”What does a woman want?”‘ I think [...]
Sexual arousal for its own sake
Simmering: A two minute technique for nourishing the erotic bond between partners. Useful for modern couples for whom the idea of leisure time is a quaint memory, but who’d like to stay in touch. A modern dilemma Recently I had lunch with my colleague Eric Amaranth, and the conversation turned to the subject of polyamory — [...]
The Sexuality Resource Interview: Dr Laura Muggli on ADHD in Women
After posting two articles on ADHD and Marriage in response to a recent NYTimes article, I received several responses asking specifically about women with ADHD. I decided to consult my favorite Women’s ADHD guru, Dr Laura Muggli. Laura, we hear a lot lately about ADHD and relationships, but it’s mostly about men with ADHD. What [...]
ADHD, Marriage, and The N. Y. Times – Part 2 Alvin? Alvin??! ALVIIIN!!!!
The word “Deficit” in “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder” is seriously misleading. As any parent of a kid with ADHD will tell you, such children often have an astounding capacity for paying attention to something that happens to be immediately exciting, such as a video game. The problem is that they have trouble paying attention to [...]
Sex Therapy and Twilight: Eclipse
Growing up, we each come to learn that we’re not the center of the world — that the people who love us also have other concerns. But eros is primitive, and the erotic mind is a poor student. It remains fixated on an image of pure, absolute attention from an adoring other. And the power [...]
Men and their computers, alone together.
In the traditional Jewish world, a man and woman not married to each other are forbidden to be alone together. The Jewish laws covering this issue, collectively known as the laws of Yichud, are intended to counter the inherently stronger natural laws of sexual attraction. As strange as such laws might seem to [...]
Some open secrets about sexual arousal
The secrets of sexual arousal are hidden in plain sight. You just have to know what you’re looking for. Physical sexual arousal – the sexually aroused body – has been endlessly studied, most famously by Masters and Johnson in the 1960′s. And less rigorously but no less intensely by every sexual couple since the dawn of [...]
