Posts Tagged ‘attention’

Slow Sex in Manhattan

        “I want to know what became of the changes We waited for love to bring. Were they only the fitful dreams Of some greater awakening? –Jackson Browne, The Pretender   The cultivation of sexual mindfulness One rainy Friday afternoon in mid-summer, I traveled uptown to speak with Nicole Daedone, a former [...]

On being deeply nourished. The Nicole Daedone interview, continued.

    In previous articles in this series, we’ve been discussing a sexuality practice popularized by author Nicole Daedone – a technique she’s named “Orgasmic Meditation,” though it doesn’t necessarily involve sexual climax in the conventional sex. In her book Slow Sex, she describes how a woman can develop her capacity for sexual attention by [...]

SexualityResource interviews “Slow Sex” author Nicole Daedone — on going to the place of pure feeling

  TEDx SF 2011 Alive – Nicole Daedone ©Suzie Katz via Creative Commons   “Be who G-d meant you to be, and you will set the world on fire.” — Saint Catherine of Siena   Slow Sex author Nicole Daedone says she first learned the technique she now calls “Orgasmic Meditation” (OM)  from someone who’d [...]

Nicole Daedone, “Slow Sex,” and the art of eating a tomato.

    “The Tao is like a vessel that can never be filled up. It is deep and endless, like the source of all things.”  – Lao-Tzu   Not far into her book Slow Sex, Nicole Daedone recounts the story of  the first time she ever tasted a home-grown heirloom tomato.    She was ten [...]

On staying faithful in Hollywood and elsewhere

    July 27 After news of the Kristen Stewart mini-scandal broke this week, I was contacted by IBTimes writer Justine Ashley Costanza about infidelity amongst the famous and not-so-famous.   With her permission, I’m reprinting the conversation we had in preparation for her IBTimes article that appeared July 25th. Dr Snyder, you’ve said you’re sympathetic [...]

Fifty Shades for men

    OK, guys — By now you’ve probably noticed your wife or girlfriend has become more interested in sex since reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Have you thought of reading it yourself — to find out what all the fuss is about? I’m going to tell you a secret:  I read the whole thing.   [...]

Why Fifty Shades leaves women wanting . . . more

  Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons.   Sixth in a series based on the new book, Fifty Shades of Grey. Can’t Fail Recipe for Erotic Romance 5 cups Twilight 1 cup Marquis de Sade 3 cups raw sex — finely diced Yield:    Fifty Shades of Grey   Two virgins It’s well known that Fifty Shades [...]


    Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7,  via Creative Commons. Eleventh in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam Eros, self-love, and the New York Times In 2009 an article by Daniel Bergner appeared in the New York Times Magazine concerning new research into women’s [...]

The woman in the mirror

    Tenth in a series of articles on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam   “Being desired is very arousing to women.” Marta Meana, quoted in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, p. 110.   Every little thing she does is magic In a typical romance novel aimed at [...]

Edith Wharton and the Nine Rooms of Happiness

Sex and Eros The average adult heterosexual man, in the average relationship with an adult woman, doesn’t ask for so much -   and doesn’t have so much to give.   He’d like a good meal, a little appreciation for how well he replaced the lightbulb in the bathroom yesterday.  Then he wants to be left alone [...]