Posts Tagged ‘arousal’

Can a man make love like a woman?

    Several years ago, a merchant in my neighborhood learned that I was both an MD and a sex therapist.  The next time I was in his shop, he asked me if I could get him some Viagra. “How long have you had erection problems?” I asked. “I don’t,” he answered.  “But my wife and I [...]

Sex therapist at the Academy Awards: Helen Hunt in The Sessions

    How many of you saw The Sessions?  Good – I see some hands. Did it lead to much discussion?  Well it didn’t in my house either. And in the popular press the same thing.  A few early reviews saying it was very moving, and well done.  Then nothing more. A movie about a [...]

Slow Sex in Manhattan

        “I want to know what became of the changes We waited for love to bring. Were they only the fitful dreams Of some greater awakening? –Jackson Browne, The Pretender   The cultivation of sexual mindfulness One rainy Friday afternoon in mid-summer, I traveled uptown to speak with Nicole Daedone, a former [...]

An open letter to just-signed New York Jets quarterback Tim Tebow — about virginity and other important matters

    March 22, 2012 Tim — First of all, congratulations on your upcoming move to New York City.  It’s a great town, and I’m sure you’ll love it here. As an athlete and a religious man, you will be a role model to many young people here.   So I’m writing to you today [...]

The year in clinical sexuality, 2011

  As we get ready to leave 2011 behind, I would like as always to express my gratitude to family, friends and colleagues for your support and encouragement over the past year; and to my patients for your trust and confidence.   May we all merit much happiness in 2012. Here’s my list of 2011′s [...]

The woman in the mirror

    Tenth in a series of articles on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam   “Being desired is very arousing to women.” Marta Meana, quoted in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, p. 110.   Every little thing she does is magic In a typical romance novel aimed at [...]

Wolf love in The New York Times

  Vampires in love I remember years ago going to see Frank Langella in Dracula on Broadway.   The only thing I can recall about the play now  is the scene just before the curtain that ended Act I: As I remember, there were just two people still on stage – the Count and his female [...]

The year in clinical sexuality, 2010

As we get ready to close the books on 2010, I would like to express my gratitude to  family,  friends, and colleagues for your support and encouragement over the past year.   And to all my patients for your trust and confidence.   May we all merit much happiness in 2011. In ending the year, [...]

Sexual arousal for its own sake

Simmering: A two minute technique for nourishing the erotic bond between partners. Useful for modern couples for whom the idea of leisure time is a quaint memory, but who’d like to stay in touch. A modern dilemma Recently I had lunch with my colleague Eric Amaranth, and the conversation turned to the subject of polyamory — [...]

Sexuality, simmering, and the B train back from the beach

Photo credit:  Pedrosimoes7 A train in motion On the B train, one hot summer Sunday afternoon. I’m bringing my children and a few of their friends back to Manhattan, after a long day at the beach in Brooklyn. There’s a young couple standing near the exit door, sharing an ipod headset. Each with an earpiece [...]