Sex Therapy For Women
Because Sex Isn’t Simple
The quality of a woman’s sexual experience depends on many factors. How secure she feels about herself and her partner; how accepted and desired she feels in the relationship; and how much balance and satisfaction she has found in her life.
Attempts at “quick fixes” that do not address these issues are not likely to succeed. Magazines and self-help books are full of advice for jump-starting desire in women and couples. But such tactics will only get you so far. A qualified Sex Therapist can help identify and work through your issues, and reignite the spark in your life.
How Sex Therapy Can Change Your Life
In what ways have your experiences been making you feel good about yourself, and in what ways not? Realistically, what can you change, and what not? With more than 25 years as a Sex Therapist in New York, I’ve helped women consider these kinds of questions. I offer positive feedback, specific actions to take and personal counsel that has been successful for hundreds of my patients. I often see individuals and couples who haven’t been helped by previous attempts at therapy with great results.
If you think sex and relationships might have more to offer you than you’re currently getting, then I invite you to search through this website and consider making an appointment.
Sex Therapy for Women Most Often Involves the Following Concerns:
Trouble getting (and staying) sexually aroused
Many women “go through the motions” of lovemaking without feeling really aroused. Others find that their arousal shuts off unexpectedly and they can’t get it back. Sex therapy can help a woman figure out what she really feels and really needs.
Body image issues
Few 21st Century women are spared body image concerns. Acceptance of one’s body is an ongoing journey. Many women find speaking about body image issues with a sex therapist to be extremely helpful in rebuilding a more positive body image.
Desire problems, loss of sexual desire, mismatched desire
Very often a woman’s loss of sexual desire is simply her body telling her that something in her life needs attention. Distress over lack of libido is the most common problem that brings women to sex specialists. Seeing a specialist who’s qualified to discuss emotional and sexual aspects can identify and work through what may be causing the problem.
Considering whether Addyi (flibanserin) might be appropriate
I’m one of the few sex therapists in America who is also an MD. I can help a woman decide whether the new medication Addyi for low sexual desire might be appropriate, and I am able to prescribe it under careful supervision while attending to other factors in the relationship as well.
Emotional intimacy problems
Let’s face it – sex is intimate. (At least if you’re doing it right). Shame, shyness, and self-criticism keep many women from more fully enjoying sex. Sometimes just a few conversations with a specialist can help alleviate these negative feelings and build confidence.
Inability to climax with a partner (or at all)
Sexual climax may not always be the most important part of sex. But it’s important that you know how to get an orgasm if you want one. A sex therapist can suggest options and recommend resources for you.
Partner’s loss of sexual desire
Has your husband or partner stopped initiating sex? Do you feel “like room-mates”? As a sex and relationship therapist, I’ve helped many such couples figure out what’s going on. Men tend to speak a different emotional language from women which can lead to blocked communications. Unlike most sex therapists, I’m a man—so I speak fluent “male”—which can be valuable in helping sort out why a man has been avoiding sex.
Pelvic pain, pain on intercourse, and vaginismus
I’ve worked extensively with pelvic physical therapists and gynecologists here in the New York area to help women with pelvic pain recover the ability to make love without fear.
Problems resulting from sexual, emotional, or physical abuse
Sexual abuse, emotional abuse, and physical abuse can have lasting effects on a woman’s self-experience, her relationships, and her attitude towards sexuality. Sex therapy can be an important part of recovery from abuse.
Religious concerns and cultural conflicts regarding sexuality
As a sex therapist who is also a traditionally religious person, I have years of experience working with individuals’ and couples’ religious concerns about sex. I understand how this can affect your sex life and offer ways to balance your beliefs with your quality of life.
Sexual effects of emotional or medical illness and/or medications
Emotional health issues such as depression and anxiety can affect your sexual well-being. So can the medications sometimes used to treat these conditions. Because I am an MD, I have decades of experience helping people find the right balance when medication is disrupting that balance.
Uncertainty about your own (or your partner’s) sexual orientation (straight, gay, or bi)
It’s now pretty well understood that many individuals are potentially bisexual. But some women still worry there’s something wrong with them (or their partners) for having same-sex desires. Counseling can be very helpful in understanding what you and your partner really feel, and for whom.
Feel free to contact me with any questions and to make an appointment to get started.
“Dr Snyder is nationally respected as an outstanding sex therapist for couples and individuals, and as a wise and considerate teacher.”
Sallie Foley, MSW. Author: Sex Matters for Women.