For Couples

Every couple has its stories. To be in a couple is to have stories.

In addition to the particular stories you know and remember together, there are the larger ones that define who you are as a couple. These are usually unspoken: What led the two of you to select each other in the first place? What specific needs of yours led you to select your partner? What exactly are you trying to achieve in this partnership?

Some parts of your story as a couple you already know. Some you may only understand after decades together, or after a pivotal event that suddenly brings things into focus. Some you may never know. That’s OK. It keeps things interesting.

You have a sexual story together too. For most couples, early in your relationship, good sex helped connect the two of you together. Good sex, by my definition, is sex that leaves you feeling good about yourself, and about each other. Good sex helps keep a couple’s connection to each other alive. When things go wrong with the sexual or emotional life of a couple, it’s best to address it right away.  The right therapist can sometimes make a big difference.

Paying attention to what matters

As an AASECT-certified sex therapist and couples therapist in New York City, I’ve spent over 20 years counseling couples and helping them take care of sexual and emotional problems.

If your sexual or emotional relationship together has become frustrating or unsatisfying…If it isn’t making you feel good about yourself, or about each other…then you may want to consider making an appointment for a consultation.