Jan 15, 2012 Tim, first of all let me say I’m really sorry about your team’s [...]
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The SexualityResource interview: What to do when size obsession gets out of hand
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7 Tori Rodriguez, a writer for MensHealth.com, recently interviewed me for a short article, The Obsession with Size, prompted by a recent article in the British Journal of Urology reporting that most men electing penis enlargement surgery are in fact normally endowed. Thanks to Ms Rodriguez and to the editors of MensHealth.com [...]
Diary of a Manhattan Sex Therapist — The other side of Saturday night
Want to test your knowledge of male sexual psychology? Take this quiz: QUIZ: It’s Saturday night. Paul, 25 years old, is on a date with a new woman whom he likes very much and finds very sexy. Unfortunately, later that night when they undress together, he suddenly has no erection. She is very understanding [...]
Sexual arousal for its own sake
Simmering: A two minute technique for nourishing the erotic bond between partners. Useful for modern couples for whom the idea of leisure time is a quaint memory, but who’d like to stay in touch. A modern dilemma Recently I had lunch with my colleague Eric Amaranth, and the conversation turned to the subject of polyamory — [...]
Sexuality, simmering, and the B train back from the beach
Photo credit: Pedrosimoes7 A train in motion On the B train, one hot summer Sunday afternoon. I’m bringing my children and a few of their friends back to Manhattan, after a long day at the beach in Brooklyn. There’s a young couple standing near the exit door, sharing an ipod headset. Each with an earpiece [...]
Some open secrets about sexual arousal
The secrets of sexual arousal are hidden in plain sight. You just have to know what you’re looking for. Physical sexual arousal – the sexually aroused body – has been endlessly studied, most famously by Masters and Johnson in the 1960′s. And less rigorously but no less intensely by every sexual couple since the dawn of [...]
Dining and Differentiation
What’s the secret to making your love a lasting one? What’s the secret to keeping sexual passion alive? There’s no one best answer, and every couple is different. But many sex therapists, myself included, talk about something called “differentiation” as a key factor. Differentation means being able to take care of yourself, as a separate [...]
