A Blog About Sex and Sex Therapy
The SexualityResource blog is more than just a sex blog. We’ll cover a broad range of subjects, from general articles to interviews with key opinion leaders to new research on human sexuality. Your sexual health and well-being matters to me, and I’m driven to seek out the best, most accurate, and most useful information to share with you.
Not many sex therapists or sex blog writers are medical doctors. Having a foot in both the sex therapy and sexual medicine camps has given me a valuable perspective on issues that have long divided sex experts. I’ve written articles on the perils of either/or thinking in sex treatments, and on why the field of sex therapy needs to start questioning its theoretical assumptions.
A Sex Blog in Search of the New
I believe that the worst sin for a sex blog is to repeat old, conventional notions that may or may not still be correct. You’ll find only original material on my blog. The second worse sin for a sex blog is to be boring. Sex should never be boring, and neither should sex writing.
I’ve not hesitated to write about controversial topics, from Orgasmic Meditation to A Billion Wicked Thoughts, from Sex at Dawn to arousal non-concordance. A sex therapist is always in need of new ideas, and you never know where the next useful idea in the sex field will come from. I’m interested in people who will push the boundaries of conventional thinking about sexuality, in order to bring new insights to our field. At the same time, I’m a skeptic about utopian claims that anything, from technology to non-monogamy, will change the basics of our sexual natures.
Sex Writing that Makes a Difference
I’m an inveterate reader, and for years have served on both the Consumer Book Award Committee and the Professional Book Award Committee of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). For the past several years, I’ve been the Chairman of the SSTAR Consumer Book Award Committee. I have a passion for making complex ideas understandable to non-specialists, and for sharing new knowledge about who we are as sexual individuals.
I believe that the approval of Addyi (flibanserin), so-called “female Viagra,” for Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder in premenopausal women on August 18, 2015 may herald a new era of research—where we’ll learn what really works and what doesn’t, and for whom. I’m eager to listen to all viewpoints and share them with you, as we make our way into the sexual future (and try not to get too lost there).
Recent Posts . . .
If you’re a young person just starting out in an intimate relationship, make sure the physical intimacy is right for you.
Not many doctors know much yet about Addyi (flibanserin). Here’s some basic info to get you started.
Challenge: Find 7 serious mistakes in the recent NYTimes “Pink Viagra” Op-Ed
Looking for a serious relationship, the disconnect between your social networks online becomes a disadvantage.
Eros thrives when boundaries are crossed. Especially the boundary of speech.
Remember the scene where Helen Hunt and her disabled client discover they were both raised Catholic?
How is a sex surrogate different from a sex therapist? Interview with The Sessions’ Cheryl Cohen Greene.
As I waited for the first time in the Green Room, my heart pounding, I thought, “This is what it’s like for some people on a third date.”
Male bisexuality isn’t yet a hot topic among couples. But it should be, because it’s a big deal.
When you’re a sex therapist, your patients tend for obvious reasons not to thank you in public.
As a sex therapist, I saw an accurate portrayal of something I see every day: the plight of the “nice guy.”
Part of the fuss over Jamie Dornan as Christian Grey concerns whether he’s going to be a good movie boyfriend.
We sex therapists aren’t so interested in orgasms. We’re among the few humans on the planet who aren’t.
Thanks to CBSThisMorning for the opportunity to talk about monogamy. And Oprah for media coaching . . .
Bisexual? There’s a whole assortment of bisexualities. The best sex therapists know not to generalize.
Are arousal and desire the same thing? When is kink a problem? Sexual problems are always controversial.
Sex therapy to help men stop worrying about erections, so they can get back to making love.
As sex therapist, not a sex surrogate, all I do is talk to people. But The Sessions’ message about sexual self-love is universal.
Maybe we’d all like to talk more about sex, but we lack the words.
French critics decry an American sensibility that sex can only be justified by love. French women seem to disagree.
New York Times bestseller Fifty Shades of Grey sold 100 million copies, and sex may never be the same.
A sex therapist interviews Slow Sex author Nicole Daedone on how to rescue sexuality in our times.
Our capacity for sexual intimacy and connection bears the imprint of childhood experience.
We sex therapists should credit Nicole Daedone’s intuition that there’s something profound about sexual desire.
Fifty Shades of Grey is about every relationship. They are all in some way impossible. But we make them work.
Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone is a guide to Orgasmic Meditation, which isn’t really about orgasm at all.
SexualityResource interviews “Slow Sex” author Nicole Daedone — on going to the place of pure feeling
And in that moment I thought, “Oh my God, this is what sex is supposed to be like”
Sexual mindfulness is the subject of much attention in sex therapy these days. Slow Sex is in this tradition.
The mental health profession comes off pretty well in the sex movie “Hope Springs.” But still . . .
A good sex therapist today would spent much more time on feelings with this couple.