(Reprinted from Dr Snyder’s PsychologyToday blog, “SexualityToday”) Recently, Sexuality Resource reviewed Sex at Dawn, a new book drawing... read more
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The SexualityResource Interview: Sex At Dawn’s Christopher Ryan on human sexual prehistory
(Reprinted from Dr Snyder’s PsychologyToday blog, “SexualityToday”) Recently, Sexuality Resource reviewed Sex at Dawn, a new book drawing on a vast amount of cultural and physical anthropological scholarship to suggest that our human ancestors lived in sexually promiscuous groups of hunter-gatherers. And that the development 10,000 years ago of agriculture, an ownership society, and sexual… read more
Will “Sex at Dawn” influence sex therapy?
Recently, Sexuality Resource reviewed Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha’s Sex at Dawn – a new book drawing on a vast amount of cultural and physical anthropological scholarship to argue that for our hunter-gatherer ancestors, sexual promiscuity may have been an established way of life. And that the development 10,000 years ago of agriculture, an ownership society, and sexual… read more
Sexuality Resource reviews “Sex at Dawn,” by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha
We moderns tend to think of sexuality as the province of more-or-less monogamous couples, bound together by bonds of love, romantic possessiveness, and jealousy. But according to Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha, at the “dawn” of mankind — the vast era dating from 200,000 to 10,000 years ago – things were quite different. In their new… read more
The Sexuality Resource Interview: Dr Laura Muggli on ADHD in Women
After posting two articles on ADHD and Marriage in response to a recent NYTimes article, I received several responses asking specifically about women with ADHD. I decided to consult my favorite Women’s ADHD guru, Dr Laura Muggli. Laura, we hear a lot lately about ADHD and relationships, but it’s mostly about men with ADHD. What about… read more
Infidelity at the office, and how to avoid it.
The following is reprinted from Dr Snyder’s article “Are you ready for the truth?” — with permission from the original Italian publisher – WorkStyle Magazine Vol 4 (p. 32-33), July 2010. Because they’re there. The most common reason romantic love happens with coworkers is simply because they’re there. We spend a lot of time at… read more
ADHD, Marriage, and The N. Y. Times – Part 2 Alvin? Alvin??! ALVIIIN!!!!
The word “Deficit” in “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder” is seriously misleading. As any parent of a kid with ADHD will tell you, such children often have an astounding capacity for paying attention to something that happens to be immediately exciting, such as a video game. The problem is that they have trouble paying attention to anything… read more
ADHD, Marriage, and the New York Times
At long last, ADHD and its marital consequences have reached The New York Times. Tara Parker-Pope’s July 20 column concerns the long-overdue recognition of the pivotal role that an individual’s having ADHD can have on a romantic partnership. The high incidence of marital distress and even divorce in such relationships. What’s remarkable is that the mental health… read more
Our sexual culture and The New York Times
The latest public figure to make journalistic hay from the flibanserin controversy is Camille Paglia, whose editorial in The New York Times, ”No Sex Please, We’re Middle Class, “ seems to be getting some play on my twitter feed. It’s a fun read, but she throws a lot of things together that I’m not sure really… read more
Twilight Eclipse: What Does a Woman Want?
Freud, famously, claimed not to know. In a letter to his student Marie Bonaparte, he wrote, ‘The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is ”What does a woman want?”’ I think Freud was just being coy. … read more
Sex Therapy and Twilight: Eclipse
Growing up, we each come to learn that we’re not the center of the world — that the people who love us also have other concerns. But eros is primitive, and the erotic mind is a poor student. It remains fixated on an image of pure, absolute attention from an adoring other. And the power… read more
Simplicity, complexity, and the hunt for Pink Viagra
Will there ever be a Viagra for women? If so, would the FDA ever approve it? How many women would actually want to try it? This month, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration is expected to consider drug manufacturer Boehringer-Ingelheim’s new drug flibanserin — a medication reported to somewhat improve female sexual desire. … read more
Men and their computers, alone together.
In the traditional Jewish world, a man and woman not married to each other are forbidden to be alone together. The Jewish laws covering this issue, collectively known as the laws of Yichud, are intended to counter the inherently stronger natural laws of sexual attraction. As strange as such laws might seem to us in… read more
The latest news about premature ejaculation
On Friday April 16, the latest news about premature ejaculation came in from Europe: PRNewswire’s “Men slow to talk about fast sex”. It was a release citing some data from a new survey on PE, which confirmed something that we sex therapists have always known: Premature ejaculation is a serious matter that adversely… read more
A primer on sexual arousal
Arousal (a-ROUS- al): The normal change from a non-sexual to a sexual state of body and mind. The secrets of good sexual arousal are hidden in plain sight. They’re obvious, once you know what you’re looking for. But so many couples end up losing their bearings in this area, that a good general… read more
Twilight, and the art of foreplay
Foreplay. Women traditionally complain they don’t get enough of it. Often this gets interpreted as being due to a woman’s needing more physical stimulation to get fully aroused. OK, maybe sometimes that’s the issue. But I don’t see it as the essential thing. The physical aspects of sex rarely are. The essential thing is this: … read more
Dining and Differentiation
What’s the secret to making your love a lasting one? What’s the secret to keeping sexual passion alive? There’s no one best answer, and every couple is different. But many sex therapists, myself included, talk about something called “differentiation” as a key factor. Differentation means being able to take care of yourself, as a separate… read more
